You may have leaned in for a kiss and accidentally sneezed or had to cancel a date because you feel more stuffed than the teddy bear your partner gave you last anniversary.

Whether it's long-term or relatively new, hay fever and relationships don't always mix well. Especially if your partner doesn't truly understand what you're going through.

"But my partner is kind, caring and very helpful, especially when my hay fever flares up." We're sure they are! However, they may very well still be missing a big part of the hay fever picture.

If we asked people with hay fever how it makes them feel, what do you think the most common answer would be? A recent study showed more than half of those dealing with hay fever symptoms (61%) stated their symptoms made them feel 'less attractive'1.

While we're sure your partner knows you may be feeling irritable, stressed and maybe even a little unproductive, feeling 'unattractive' may be something they're simply unaware of. More importantly, over a third of hay fever sufferers acknowledge allergies have affected their romantic relationships in some way, including their ability to be physically intimate or social with their partner1.

So while your partner may have the tissues ready for your runny nose, the windows closed for your puffy eyes, and some lozenges ready for your itchy throat, perhaps what's truly needed is a little less practical and a little more emotional support. Empathy, understanding and some reassuring love.

In saying this, we aren't suggesting you completely throw practical solutions out the window! We've put together a few tips for you and your partner that might help minimise the risk of your hay fever flaring up.

Quick tips for your partner


Especially if you have carpet, it's like a magnet for pollen and dust (bonus points for making your place look clean).

Leave your shoes at the door

Tracking in pollen - especially if you have carpet - can be a big no-no.


Fewer knick-knacks = less dust. Check on whether your furniture might be a problem. Overcrowded furniture and items capture dust.


Often a neglected cleaning spot and one that captures a surprising amount of dust. A quick wipe with a microfibre cloth should do the trick.


While you might think lighting a scented candle will help set the mood, people with allergies can react to strong scents like colognes, cleaning supplies, potpourri and - you got it - candles.


Like we said, 61% of hay fever sufferers feel 'less attractive' as a result of their symptoms1. So a little love and a dash of empathy can go a long way.

Quick tips for you

So if you're the hay fever sufferer in your relationship, here's what you can be doing: make sure you check the pollen count in your area, identify and avoid things that trigger your symptoms and take steps to 'allergy-proof' your home by keeping it dust free. Most importantly, if your symptoms are still sticking around, talk to your healthcare professional about medication that may help you treat your hay fever. Everybody's different and your healthcare professional can help you work out the best way to manage your symptoms.